6 Ways You Can Help Your Child With Special Needs Overcome a Fear of Water

For many families, a fear of water can be a major obstacle to summer fun. Fortunately, warm weather offers many opportunities to overcome this fear without distress.
A severe fear of water is known as hydrophobia. The fear may be based on a fear of drowning, a fear of becoming messy, a fear of losing control or a fear of being unable to escape. Some individuals are highly sensitive to the texture and sounds of water, and may develop an aversion based on that discomfort.
In all of these cases, it is easy to make the fear or aversion worse by failing to find the root cause or by forcing immersion in water before the person is ready.
It is not so easy to alleviate a fear of water – but it is definitely possible. These are some of the activities that I used at home to mitigate my children’s sensitivity to water and fear of immersion.

1. Water play

A small container of water is less threatening than a large container when exploring the texture, sounds and other natural properties of water.  The only rule for water play is to make it as fun as possible, which means no splashing on the face or dunking. Consider using the following tools:

• measuring cups
• ladles or spoons
• sponges
• ice cubes
• a drop of food coloring
• a bucket
• a sink full of soapy water

2. Water chores

Doing wet chores as a family is a way to teach the practical purpose of water without the threat of immersion. When we give our pet guinea pig an outdoor bath during the summer, we often have a crowd of neighborhood children helping us – the pet’s bath becomes a social event, not a chore. Other chores include:

• watering plants
• washing the car
• wiping the bathroom counter
• mopping the floor
• doing laundry
• washing dishes
• rinsing paint brushes after craft time

3. Allow some control

Loss of control is part of every fear. When a person is able to control one aspect of a water experience, it may mitigate the fear enough so that the person can enjoy the experience.
For example, my older son was fearful of putting his face in water, because the feeling of water in or near his nose made him panic. He could not learn how to swim because of his fear. After several years of unsuccessful swimming lessons, an instructor suggested that we get a pair of goggles that covered his nose and eyes. When my son realized that his nose was protected from water, he began to swim laps instead of flailing in the water.

4. Daily rituals

Water is less threatening when it is a non-negotiable everyday activity. I discovered that requiring a daily 2 minute bath resulted in more cooperation than bathing every other day. If a bath is too uncomfortable, try washing with a wet washcloth, or consider allowing some daily play time with a handheld shower head.

5. Water temperature

I have one child who prefers a hot bath and one who insists on a lukewarm bath. Safe experimentation with different temperatures is an effective way to reduce anxiety about water. Offer containers of water at various temperatures and demonstrate how the bath’s temperature can be changed.

6. Water safety

Phobias are usually based on the possibility of danger, even if it is a remote possibility. When I acknowledged the real dangers of water and helped my son find ways to be safe, his comfort near water increased and his fear decreased. Many individuals with disabilities are both attracted to water and fearful of it, a particularly dangerous combination with an increased risk for drowning. Safety strategies include:

• providing a life jacket
• using different types of floats and tubes
• learning how to tread water
• practicing the buddy system
• signing up for individualized swimming lessons

Taken from:
http://www.friendshipcircle.org/blog/2014/08/26/6-ways-you-can-help-your-child-with-special-needs-overcome-a-fear-of-water/?utm_source=Friendship+Circle+Blog&utm_campaign=24282fda03-RSS_EMAIL_CAMPAIGN&utm_medium=email&utm_term=0_3ec270b4ae-24282fda03-199195685

Those of us who are parents are all too familiar with this scenario:  Upon picking up your child from school or camp you ask excitedly, “What did you do today?”  Your child responds with an unenthusiastic, “I don’t know.”
It may not be that your child does not want to share or did not have a good day, but that he does not know how to share.  The problem is with that open-ended question; it is not specific enough and has too many possible answers.  To get more information and fewer shoulder shrugs, try this proven strategy.

1. Talk to the Teacher in Advance

Speak to the teacher or counselor and get the day’s schedule. Pick one to three activities or people you plan to ask about.

2. Ask the Questions before the Day Starts

At drop-off time, prepare or “pre-teach” your child by telling him the question(s) you will be asking when you pick him up at the end of the day.

3. Know the Answers in Advance

Speak to the teacher or counselor to get the answers to your questions prior to asking your child.  It is difficult to determine the accuracy of your child’s responses if, for example, you do not know the name of the friend or the type of activity you plan to ask about.  Also, the teacher/counselor can act as a facilitator in recalling and retaining information, by reminding your child about another student’s name or about the sequence of events throughout the day.

4. Start the Conversation While Everything is Still “Fresh”

As soon as you have your child in the car, away from the distraction of others and while the information is fresh in his mind, ask him your question(s):

• “What is your new friend’s name?”
• “Who was your partner during reading/game today?”
• “What did you eat at snack time?”

Try asking the same questions every day for the next several days.  Eventually, you can ask different questions or fade away the pre-teaching step at the beginning of the day.  As time goes on, your child will begin to anticipate these questions at pick-up time.
You may find that it becomes easier for your child to share the details of the day, given less reminders and facilitation for recall.  You may also discover that your child begins to offer up information that was not predetermined or rehearsed.  At the very least, it will help to add a little more chatter to your ride-home routine.


Taken from:  http://www.friendshipcircle.org/blog/2014/08/22/4-ways-to-help-your-child-with-special-needs-share-about-the-day/